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Online dating... it's a love hate relationship isn't it? I'm sure you've heard of all the horror stories about online dating...
girls being cheated, men spamming your inboxes and men who just wants
to have fun... and I don't blame you for freaking out after hearing so
many horror stories.
You will want to try it out if you are new to the dating
scene or if you haven't been dating for a while. And going out to meet
new people isn't exactly your cup of tea right now. It's
scary to suddenly get out of your comfort zone and go out there and be
vulnerable.
But here's an interesting fact... the ratio of men
to women on the dating sites is 9:1. That means 90% of the people on
those dating sites are men and only 10% are women. So if that's the case
then YOUR chances of success is so much higher than the men.
First of all, if your impression of online dating sites is on the
negative side and you think that all the men on those sites are out to
cheat or they are not serious then naturally that will be your
experience because that's what you belief and focus on.
Because that's your perception, then even if a nice guy contacted
you, you'll doubt his intentions and you end up sabotaging
yourself.
Secondly, if you are someone who judges a lot on the physical, the
men you attract will also judge you on the physical. The same principle
applies to dating agencies. They match you based on the superficial
level.... how he looks, what's his job (tittle), how much he makes....
How can you make online dating work for you?
Get rid of the mindset that all the men on the dating sites are jerks. If you feel that way, don't bother participating.
Get clear on WHY you want to participate on the dating site. i.e. To make new friends.
Your profile picture should be one that is able to show the real you. No bikini photo.
Write your profile truthfully. You don't want to attract the "wrong" kind of men.
Send out good, positive vibes and expect success.
If you haven't been dating for a while
now, you may get all excited about going on your first date and lose
yourself. Going on dates doesn't mean you have to pretend to
be someone you are not to impress the guy. The purpose of these dates is
to get to know the guy better and get clear on what you want and what
you don't want. If he ain't the right one... move on... NEXT...
Remember... you are the prize and you totally deserve the best because you are worth it!
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You should note that this doesn't say the best breakup advice is the
easiest. There's just nothing easy about it. With most things in life,
just like breakup advice, the simpler the steps are to follow the better
the advice is.
Why is that? It's best because people will find it a little more
difficult to mess up simple, uncomplicated steps for one thing. Another
reason it's so good is that people will actually put it into practice if
it's simple enough. The final reason simple is best.
There are few steps and even fewer lines to remember
this way. Nothing important gets left out.
So, what's this simple breakup advice that's supposed to be the best?
Be Consistent about Breaking Up
Going back and forth or changing your mind not only sends mixed
messages but it also gives the person you're supposed to be breaking up
with a clear message that you're not really committed to ending things
or attempting to make changes. Since there is something amiss in the
relationship or you wouldn't be thinking about breaking up, it's safe to
say that this is not really the message you want to be sending.
Get to the Breaking Up Part
There's no point in "hemming" and "hawing" around the main message.
Get to the heart of the matter so that you can move on to dealing with
the fallout. Expect some sort of fallout. It hurts when relationships
end and people deal with that pain in different ways. It could be anger,
tears, silent misery, and a need for quick escape. You owe it to the
person you once loved to allow them to deal with the break up as they
need to. Delaying will only prolong the inevitable.
Be Honest but not Brutally Honest
There are times in life when brutal honesty is the best course of
action. This is not that time. You want to be honest about your reason
for breaking up but not at the expense of his or her emotional well
being. This is a time when your ex is down. You just don't go around
kicking people when they are down. It just isn't very nice. Be gentle
but don't give false reasons for calling it off.
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These may not seem like much but they do make an effective method
for breaking up. More importantly they are simple steps and that makes
this the best breaking up advice you might see for quite some time.
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When it comes to relationships, there is an old saying that goes,
“age is mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” What is
basically being said there is that age really doesn’t have any bearing
on a relationship unless you choose to make it one. That seems like a
perfectly plausible argument, yet there are still plenty of people out
there that just don’t think that people who are years apart can ever be
in a relationship that will last. My feeling is that it really does all
depend on the two people who are in the relationship, as it is their
dynamic that will ultimately make their union succeed or fail.
Age differences in relationships are a funny thing that seems to
become less important with the passing of time. For example, a 10 year
age difference doesn’t seem that big a deal when one of the people is 50
and the other one is 40. Roll those ages back to 28 and 18, and you
begin to get people questioning the validity of that relationship. There
are those that would look at the latter of those two age pairings and
question what the 28 year old was up to. Some would even look at the
older of the two in a way that was less than favorable, almost with the
feeling that they must somehow be taking advantage of the younger
person.
The fact is that none of us should really get to judge a relationship
based solely on the ages of the two people involved in it. Just because
we don’t think that we could relate to someone much younger than
ourselves, doesn’t mean that another person can’t. It’s also a little
arrogant and foolish to believe that someone who is younger doesn’t have
the maturity to be involved with someone who is older than they are.
There are some 20 year olds that have their heads on better than people
twice their age, yet there is still the feeling that they must still
somehow be emotionally stunted at that age.
You would think that by now we would all have become somewhat
desensitized to relationships that involve big age gaps, especially
since we are subjected to them on a daily basis on TV and in the movies.
It’s almost become the norm now that the leading man in any show has to
have a partner who is a lot less younger than he, whilst also usually
being way out of his league. Yes, this should desensitize us all, but
what it really seems to do is add fuel to the fire for those who see that sort of age difference as some sort of abomination.
It doesn’t really help when what we see on film spills over into real
life. There have now been numerous instances of a much younger person
“falling in love” with someone far older than they. The intentions of
those folks are usually questioned, if only because the person they
choose to fall for usually has millions in the bank and is on their last
legs. It certainly doesn’t help the cause of those who believe that
love can ignite between two people, regardless of age, but that is like
saying that all marriages are a sham because so many now end in divorce.
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There are plenty of couples out there who are far apart in years, but
whose souls were somehow meant to be together. The problem is that we
seldom get to see or hear about these couples, as it’s only the bad ones
that get the spotlight on them as an example of how relationships
like that work. We really don’t have any business poking our noses in
and passing judgment on relationships that have a big age difference. We
know nothing about what those folks truly feel for each other, and at
the end of the day, all that really does matter is how they feel.
Have you met someone nice and you want to date her? Planning a date
for her could be really stressful if you do not know what to do. With
good planning, you can create a date that she will reminisce even years
after. To save you of the stress and anxiety, here are some tips in planning a perfect date for the girl of your dreams.
Do not panic and relax. Although a date can make or break your future relationship with the girl of your dreams,
relax because getting anxious cannot help you in the planning. You can think and decide clearly if you are calm.
It is normal to get nervous thinking about the date you are going to
have with her but do no let your nervousness rule you. Be positive and
always think that everything will turn out well.
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If this is your first date with her, it is more appropriate to have a
lunch date. First dates should not be stressful and you both should
feel comfortable with each other. Dinner date on a fancy restaurant for a
first date could be really serious and too much formality can be really
uncomfortable for both of you. Choose a less formal venue and have the
date at lunch time so your date will just be light and fun. With less
formality, you and your date will get to know each other more.
It is important to be punctual. In planning a date for her, the venue
and the activities you both want to do are important but if you appear
late on your date, you will ruin a supposedly perfect time. So plan accordingly and make sure to show up
before the scheduled time.
In planning a date for her, take note that this is about her. It can
be overwhelming to think about the venue, the food you are going to
order, your attire etc. that you may forget
that this date is about her. Always have her in mind when planning. Know what she likes to do and what will make her feel
special. It will be great if you have a common hobby or interest that
you can together to make the date interactive.
Clean your car and your place. If you offer to pick her up, clean you
car if you want to leave a good first impression. Accept it or not, a
man can be judged by how he takes care of his things. A well-kept and
clean car can leave a good first impression on her. You do not know if
she will end up hanging out in your place so tidy up just in
case
.
Always have a back up plan. You will never know the circumstances, so
it is best to have a back up plan just in case something goes wrong
with your original plan. This will also show how flexible you are, a
trait most women admire.
Be prepared to pay for the whole date. Some women are comfortable
sharing with the expenses but you should be prepared to pay for the
whole date. In planning, keep your budget in mind. Do not
make plans for something that is beyond your financial capability.
Remember that a perfect date does not have to be expensive. But if you can
afford it, there is nothing wrong to be extravagant but you have to be
careful not to send the wrong message.
Planning a perfect date is the first step in attracting the woman of your dreams.
Have you ever disappointed someone or broken a promise? Was the
incident serious enough to ultimately compromise the trust between you?
We all have been untrustworthy at some point. That doesn't mean that
we're bad or selfish. Sometimes, even under the best of circumstances,
we let people down. We give them information believing it to be true
only to discover it lacked integrity. "You lied to me! I'll never trust
you again!"
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There are some who will deliberately mislead others. While they
reassure you they are trustworthy their actions contradict their words.
We've also been deceived by those we believed in. "I promise if you
tell me about your brother-in-law's affair I won't say a word to anyone.
You can trust me." "I promise to love and honor you through good times
and bad all the days of our lives." (That one hits home for a lot of us
doesn't it?) Or perhaps a co-worker steals your idea and receives company
recognition rightly belonging to you. Your underage child assures you
that there will be no alcohol at Saturday's party then stumbles home at 2
am reeking of beer. A minor infraction ("I know I promised to be at
your retirement
dinner but I totally forgot it was this weekend.") may be easily
overlooked. One of a more serious nature ("I can't pay back the money
you loaned me to buy a new car.") might require more than a simple
"Oops, sorry!" to move beyond.
A damaged trust can completely destroy an
important relationship.
There is a strong connection between trust and anger. My definition
of fear is "a lack of trust". We are leery of those we find unreliable.
"I have to watch what I say around Uncle Joe. He can get nasty and
volatile." We may feel as though we are walking on eggshells around
those we are suspect of. This anxiety (a mild form of fear - one of the three root causes of anger) can easily convert to anger as a means of self-protection.
Some believe that once broken a trust can never be rebuilt. I'm not one of those people. I've personally regained my faith
in someone who deeply deceived me and restored a wonderful relationship
with him that continues today. I've also witnessed couples rebuild
their fractured marriages after a painful infidelity.
But unlike respect, trust must be earned. Like many others I've learnt
the hard way that not all people are deserving of trust. But there are
specific steps one can take to restore a broken relationship:
1. Consider the true nature and moral values of the offending party. Was this an isolated incident or a habitual pattern of behaviour? Even the most astute people sometimes act imprudently.
2. Has the offending party acknowledged their mistake? Awareness is the first key necessary for any restoration to occur.
3. Have they offered a sincere apology and displayed a willingness to
make amends or restitution? Saying "I'm sorry" is only the first phase.
One needs to take the necessary steps to rectify the offence.
4. Does the individual fully understand the underlying issues that
precluded their actions? By doing so, they are better equipped to
prevent a recurrence.
5. Have they been willing to see the situation through your eyes? Do
they fully understand the depth and scope of how this has affected you?
Do they "get it"? Empathy and compassion lessens the risk of a
recurrence.
6. Have they made the necessary changes and proven themselves to be
consistent? Words are cheap; actions reveal. Only through repeated
uniform acts can one prove they are reliable and worthy of your trust.
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If all of the above components are present then individuals can move
beyond the unfortunate incident and ultimately repair and rebuild the
relationship. Like a broken bone: the area of the fracture, once healed,
is stronger than that which has always remained intact.
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God wants to help you keep your word.
Bible Numbers 30:2 Around 1300 years before the birth of Jesus the
leaders of the Israelite tribes were gathered before Moses prior to
entering the promised land. Moses reminded the tribe leaders that God
had kept his word and they were about to enter the land that had been
promised. Their lesson that day was to teach their tribal family
the importance of keeping their word, like God does; to not make
promises lightly and without intention of keeping them and for parents
to teach their children this lesson as well.
All these years later, God expects the same from you and I. Keeping our word means to not knowingly:
1. Lie.
2. Create or imply distortions of the truth (no exaggerations).
3. Deceive others for financial or personal gain.
There are lots of excuses why we sometimes break our promises, but God
has implored us to not make promises we cannot keep. Sometimes we say
yes when we really wanted to say no:
• To avoid confrontation.
• To puff up our ego by saying something more important came up.
• We never really wanted to do it in the first place, but our "people pleaser" couldn't say no.
The consequences of not keeping your word are many and painful. Parents
were right when they warned that every action has a reaction, or
consequence. By not keeping your word:
• People will no longer trust you.
• God will find your words meaningless.
• You'll hurt others.
• You'll damage your character and your integrity will be broken.
• Your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health will be compromised causing you great unhappiness.
Instead of making promises, vows or oaths you don't think you can keep, you might try saying these five things instead:
1. I'll have to get back with you on that - and then get back to them quickly after you've prayed about it.
2. That doesn't work for me. I'm just not comfortable with that.
3. Say no.
4. Say maybe next time, if you really mean it.
5. Say that is not part of my values.
Keeping your word can seem unimportant when you're promising something
as simple as taking out the trash after dinner and then "forget." But it
IS important because now the person you've promised thinks you lie and
"forgetting" is just seen as another excuse. Your word truly is your
bond of character and integrity. Now the person you've made a promise to
doesn't trust you and you can't be very surprised when you make them
another promise later on and you get the old raised eyebrow.
Breaking your word is a weakness God can fix. If you look back over the
last week and realize you didn't keep your word with someone, pray and
ask God for forgiveness, ask for the strength to keep your word from now on and then go tell them the truth:
• I was afraid to say no.
• I didn't want to hurt your feelings.
• Or whatever your real reason was and I'm sorry.
By fixing your mistake you will regain the trust of the person you let
down, you will stand in good grace with God and you will rest easy at
night with a clear conscience when you lay your head upon your pillow.
God wants to help you keep your word.
You are so loved.
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