If we truly want
to live a happier life, we must dig deep and learn to forgive.
Forgiveness is the most precious treasure that we can give ourselves and
each other.
When we
are willing to take responsibility for forgiveness, we are guaranteed a
life of peace, gratitude, wisdom, expansion and growth.
If not, we are
destined to a life of blame, resentment, pain, self pity, guilt and
anger.
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To be truly happy, forgiveness begins with our self
first. Each time we beat ourselves up for the past, for mistakes or bad
choices that we have made, we stay trapped in a shell of toxic shame and
self–abuse.
Somehow we think that we deserve this. Maybe we were told that we
were bad as a child by a parent or a teacher and part of us believes
this. We believe that punishing ourselves will make us a better person
or a more humble person.
But this lie will never make us a better person. It will only keep us
prisoner to the shame that we continue to carry. Whether in the privacy
of our own minds or out loud for all to hear, each time that we
criticize ourselves for our own faults and mistakes, we are
participating in our own self-abuse. We are telling ourselves that we
are bad. We, in fact, become our worst enemies.
If what we desire is a
love filled life, we must learn to love ourselves first. That can only
happen with forgiveness.
“Although forgiveness
often looks like a generous gift we are giving to someone else, it is
ultimately an act of self-love and a gift we give to ourselves.”
Our resentments hold onto us like a ball and chain, keeping us
prisoner to our anger and to the person that we are so angry toward. We
think that we will show them by continuing to make them suffer. But we
are the ones who are truly suffering!
We
continue to try and prove that we are right and ‘they’ are wrong.
Our
righteous attitude keeps us locked up in our own misery.
We find a sick
kind of comfort in this.
Our freedom begins with taking full responsibility for our part and…
… letting go of blaming others.
The power
of forgiveness does not require that we agree with, condone or tolerate
abuse or bad behavior. We forgive the sinner, not the sin.
By forgiving, we set ourselves free to create and receive so much more.
By forgiving others, we do not become doormats for them to wipe their
feet upon. It is important that we create and set strong boundaries for
those who would continue to try to take advantage of us.
True forgiveness
allows us to stop being victims and helps us to step into our power and
authority so that we will not make the same mistakes again.
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