Monday, 1 December 2014

Choosing the Right Partner


Human being is the finest creation of God. We, the people are different from other animals and creatures as we can think properly and logically. With this careful thinking we have made some distinctive relationships. Each relationship is different from others and each has some unique characteristics. We, the human being can get the various essences of relationships. Actually, we are surrounded by different relationships and we have to play different roles in our lives. The relationship between a couple is the one of the sweet relationships of the world. Everyone wants to find a right life partner for his or her life thus their life would be great. That’s why they often want to engage in dating.

To choose a perfect partner for life is not simple at all. It is very tough job because if you get the right person you can enjoy your life fully. Your whole life would be beautiful and smooth. On the other hand if you choose the wrong person it would be the biggest mistake of your life. So, choose the life partner very consciously. Sometimes, it has been seen that we lose the right person of our life just not to tell her our proper feelings. May be we love and care for that person very much but just not by telling her our proper feeling we lose her.
Success is the thing which we cannot achieve very easily. We have to work very hard in order to achieve success in any field. Dating is not beyond of this, if we are very serious about the person and interested to start a new journey of life. To be successful in dating we need to know the proper way to handle the situation.

There are some points which you should remember before dating to someone special. They are as follows:

You should be confident that you possess a good personality and you have some qualities by which you can create a positive impact on the other person’s life. Unless and until you are confident about yourself and be comfortable in the situation you cannot make the other person feel comfortable.

Overcome all negative attitudes:
You should adhere to the positive belief and notion about our lives because if we do not overcome the negative beliefs and attitudes, we cannot get success in any field of our lives. So, first of all we should be free from all the negative feelings.

To know some important techniques for dating:
As we have to maintain some etiquette in our lives we have to maintain it for dating also. Some of them are:
a) PUA or pick up artist:
Pick up artists are those who know how to impress women. They have the proper knowledge how to become a center of attraction. They know all tricks and techniques to win the heart of the women.
b) Chat up lines:
Chats up lines are also very important for dating. These are the lines by which people can start their conversation with other.
So, if you also want to be successful in dating just remember the above mentioned points. You will surely get success in your life.


Tuesday, 28 October 2014

Break Up Well And Minimize The Emotional Damage


This might be one of the most surprising and overlooked pieces of advice I share on the subject of building healthy relationships, but it’s so important. Nothing tests the genuineness of our discipleship commitment to Jesus than our willingness to refuse to blame, badmouth, or hurt the other person during a break-up. 

A break-up usually results in a lot of hurt for everyone involved. Two people who once thought of each other as “true loves” now become enemies looking to strike back at each other. However, it’s exactly in this new and awkward context that Jesus’ challenge to love our enemies (Matthew 5:44) comes into play.

If we’re the ones doing the breaking up, we need to do so in a way that minimizes the emotional damage for the other person. We’re going to cause hurt, so we need to be as gentle, reasonable, and kind as humanly possible. Being rejected is a horrible feeling, and we don’t need to escalate those feelings (even if we think the other person deserves it). We should strive to be gracious and kind, and after the break-up never speak badly about the other person.

If we’re on the receiving end of the break-up, the emotions that flood into our hearts are going to make it very easy for us to justify hatred and retaliation. We need to fight those impulses with everything in us. That doesn’t mean minimizing how much it hurts to have someone dump us, though; it just means refusing to let the hurt we’re feeling morph into a cancer of anger and bitterness. Getting dumped sucks, but striking back through hatred and retaliation won’t provide the healing we’re looking for. That can only be found when we pour our energy into our relationship with the One who is “close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalms 34:18).


Thursday, 23 October 2014

Set Boundaries For Your Dating Relationship


It’s really important to establish boundaries before we enter into a dating relationship. If we don’t, we’ll find ourselves in a literal free-for-all in terms of what is done, said, and experienced together, and this is always destructive to everyone involved. 

Healthy relationships need boundaries, and they need to identify and decide what boundaries are going to be in place as it relates to four dimensions of the relationship: 

a. Physical. What physical boundaries need to be in place in order to protect each person’s dignity, reputation, and purity?

b. Emotional. What emotional boundaries need to be in place in order to ensure the Romeo and Juliet syndrome doesn’t take hold?

c. Social. What social boundaries need to be in place in order to ensure that each person is investing in healthy relationships outside of the dating relationship?

d. Spiritual. What spiritual boundaries need to be in place in order to ensure that each person is growing spiritually as individuals and not just focusing their spiritual growth on the context of their relationship?


Ideally, the couple should meet with a few older and more experienced couples to help them define what boundaries will be in place for them. These older couples can also play an important ongoing mentoring role in the new couples’ lives.

Monday, 20 October 2014

Take Time Out Between Relationships To Reflect and Learn

The temptation to rebound with an immediate dating relationship after one has ended is enormous. Why? Because we’ve been in a relationship long enough that we’ve become accustomed to having someone to call, touch, and hang out with. 

To go from that to nothing feels like the rug has been pulled out from under us, and our first instincts are to get ourselves back into a relationship as soon as possible in order to avoid the awkwardness of readjusting to being single. But when we start relationships in order to avoid being single, we’re actually just using the new guy or girl for our own selfish ends. 

That foundation isn’t going to take us very far, and we should expect more heartache to come if we just rush into new relationships after ending old ones.

If a relationship doesn’t work (for whatever reason), it’s always important to take some time away from dating relationships and recalibrate our hearts and minds. We need to carve out time to reflect on what went wrong, and why. We should explore how we need to grow from our experiences in the previous relationship so that future relationships are healthier and more Christ centred. 

Relationships teach us a lot if we’re willing to listen to the lessons. Be sure to carve out at least three months between dating relationships so that you can focus on learning whatever lessons God wants to teach you during your time of transition.


Monday, 6 October 2014

Don’t Believe That Romantic Relationships Are The Key to Happiness and Fulfillment


All of us go through a stage where we assume we’re a boyfriend or girlfriend away from having it all. We believe that if we could find our “true love,” all the issues that bring us down will fade into the background. We believe that love, peace, and joy will flood into our lives and give us our “happily ever after.” 

Falling in love and being in love is awesome, but if we think a relationship is what will save us from loneliness, low self-esteem, and purposelessness, we’re just wrong. No matter how good, godly, and healthy a relationship may be, it cannot fully satisfy the deeper spiritual hungers within you. To enter into any relationship with the expectation that it will be the key to a happy life is to place an idolatrous, unhealthy, and unrealistic expectation on it. 


This expectation will only suffocate any potential for the relationship to grow in a healthy way. We must never ask or assume another person can provide what only God can. When we stop looking to a relationship to be the key that will unlock the potential of our lives, we open up space for healthy relationships to emerge into what they are meant to be.

Friday, 3 October 2014

Don’t Rationalize An Abusive Relationship


It’s common for many people (especially women) to find themselves in an abusive relationship at some point in their lives. Maybe it’s a boyfriend who is physically abusive, or a girlfriend who is controlling and emotionally manipulative. Regardless, people will often rationalize a major dysfunction. Many of us would rather put up with abuse and dysfunction in our relationships than be alone, so we go to great lengths to minimize or deny any abusive behaviour.
“Well, she’s not like that all the time.”
“It isn’t really that bad.”
“It’s no big deal. That’s just the way our relationship is.”

No relationship is perfect. Each one has its fault lines and issues, but there comes a point when a challenging relationship becomes a destructive one, and when abusive patterns have emerged that line has been crossed.

Sometimes denial can run deep. If we don’t identify and end the abusive relationship until it has run its course, we will be heartbroken and devastated. Or maybe we believe we’re the one sent into this person’s life to do the saving, to make them a better person, and so we wear the abuse as a kind of badge of honour. Maybe it brings us some kind of self-righteous satisfaction that we’re suffering for a greater purpose and are willing to love someone so “complicated.”
Regardless of your particular situation, if you are involved in an abusive relationship—whether the abuse is physical, emotional, or sexual—you need to end it. You know it’s unhealthy, and chances are it’s negatively impacting every area of your life, including your relationship with God. You should talk to a friend, parent, or pastor you trust who can help you transition out of your relationship.

Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Keep Your Passion for Jesus a Central Part of Your Life

It’s easy to give Jesus priority status when there’s no competition. 
When we start dating, however, it’s common for many of us to slowly channel the energy that we’ve been investing in our relationship with Him into our newfound love. But Jesus isn’t our relational back-up plan, someone we put first until someone better comes along. He needs to stay central for us regardless of whether we’re single, dating, or married.


Relationships flourish when Jesus and His kingdom are the priority of both people, but falter when they aren’t. When Jesus is our first priority, our view of love, sex, and relationships is enhanced and enriched. But when Jesus is relegated to being our second, third, or fourth priority, our entire view of love, sex, and relationships becomes distorted. 

Knowing Jesus intimately is critical if we want to know what authentic, life-giving expressions of love, sex, and relationships look like. If we’re not anchoring our heart’s deepest hopes and longings in Jesus, our romantic relationships will always end up disappointing and frustrating us. We’ll be placing unrealistic expectations on our relationship that can only be fulfilled by God.

It’s a wonderful thing to fall in love and find someone with whom we can share our lives. However, we need to be careful that even good, healthy dating relationships don’t become stumbling blocks that cause us to forsake our first love (Revelation 2:4).


Thursday, 4 September 2014

Peace with Your Enemies

“When a man’s ways please the Lord, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.”
(Proverbs 16:7) 


What does it mean to please the Lord? In the book of Hebrews, it says that faith pleases God. Faith is simply believing that God is who He says He is and that He rewards those who seek after Him. The Bible also tells us that faith without works is dead. In other words, our faith is expressed through our actions. For example, when you go to sit down in your favorite chair, you don’t stop and wonder if it’s going to hold you up. No, you have faith in that chair because you’ve sat in it hundreds of times. If you didn’t have faith that the chair would hold you, you wouldn’t sit down. Your actions are affected by your faith. In the same way, when we have faith in God, we follow His commands. We don’t wonder; we don’t wait. We just obey Him.
Today, know that you please Him when you seek Him by faith. You please Him when you read His Word. You please Him when you follow His commands. And, when you please Him, He makes even your enemies be at peace with you!  

Father, my greatest desire is to please You in all things. Fill me with Your faith as I study and obey Your Word. Help me to stay close to You always and thank You for giving me Your peace in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Wednesday, 27 August 2014

Take Time to Listen to God

“And the Lord utters His voice before His army, for His host is very great, and they are strong and powerful who execute God's word...”
(Joel 2:11)

God teaches us to hear His voice little by little. It can be something as simple as being at the mall and not feeling good about a purchase you’re about to make. No big deal. You put it back. At the office, you feel an unrest around a certain person. You just back away. At home, you feel a prompting to spend time with your child. At night you hear a suggestion, “Turn off the TV. Go to bed. You need your rest.” You turn it off.
Pay attention to what you’re feeling. Those are all little ways that the Holy Spirit guides us. Don’t ignore the impressions, the promptings. God speaks to us in a Still, Small Voice. He is not going to boom out lightening to get your attention. He is not going to flash it across your TV screen. When God speaks, it’s usually subtle.
Remember, if you’re going to hear a whisper, you’ve got to get close. You’ve got to be tuned in. You’re not going to hear Him by accident with the busyness of the day, the stress of the office, running here and there. You have to ask yourself, “What am I feeling? What am I sensing?” You have to take time to get quiet and listen to God.

Father, thank You for teaching me to hear Your voice. I choose right now to be still and lean into You. I pray that You will make Your voice clear to my heart. Thank You for leading and guiding me as I listen to You in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Tuesday, 12 August 2014

Follow Peace

"You will go out in joy and be led forth in peace...”
(Isaiah 55:12, NIV)
God knows what’s best for you. He knows what you need and when you need it. He knows how to put you at the right place at the right time. He knows where the danger is and where the good breaks are. You have to learn to trust that inner peace, that inner prompting that leads you.
Even if the odds are against you, if you feel good about it in your heart, move forward. On the other hand, if there is unrest or uneasiness, if you don’t have peace, then wait. Don’t ignore the promptings, the impressions, the knowings. That’s God talking to you.
Always remember, God wants to help you in your everyday life, not just in the big decisions, but even in the small things. He wants to pour out His favor on you and release your frustrations. If you will be sensitive to His leading, if you will follow His peace, He will lead you into the blessing and victory He has prepared for you! 

Father, thank You for peace. Thank You for leading me forth in joy and victory. I choose to listen to You. I choose to tune in to You. I choose to trust You knowing that You have a good plan for every area of my life in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Thursday, 17 July 2014

God - The Highest Power

“You alone are the Lord. You made the heavens, even the highest heavens, and all their starry host, the earth and all that is on it, the seas and all that is in them. You give life to everything, and the multitudes of heaven worship you.”
(Nehemiah 9:6, NIV)

So many people today are looking for answers. They are looking for direction and tuning in to different voices around them. They think the universe is going to direct them or the stars will lead them. But, why would you turn to the stars for your answers when you can turn to the one who made the stars?
God didn’t just put you on the Earth and say, “Good luck. You’re on your own. I hope you make it.” No, He created us for fellowship with Him. He created us for relationship. He wants us to choose Him over anything else this world has to offer.
Today, don’t settle for second best. Don’t just look to a higher power; look to the Highest Power. Look to God, the Creator of the universe. He is good and has a good plan for your life. If you’ve never turned to God, call on Him today. Ask Him to reveal Himself to You. Ask Him to show you His ways so that you can walk with Him and know Him all the days of your life!  

Father, today I acknowledge that You alone are God. You are the highest authority among heaven and earth. Show me Your ways. Show me Your love. Help me to hear Your voice so that I can walk with You in peace and freedom in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Friday, 11 July 2014

Tune In To God And Hear His Voice

"My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.”
(John 10:27)
Right now, there are hundreds of radio frequencies in the air, hundreds of television signals all around you. But, you don’t hear them all. The reason is that you’re not tuned in. If you tune a radio or television to one of those frequencies, then you would pick up the signal.
In the same way, God is constantly transmitting to us. He wants to lead us, guide us, protect us and give us insight. But too often, we’re not tuned to His frequency. You have to pay attention to Him and learn His voice. God doesn’t speak to us most of the time out loud. He speaks to us through subtle things. He leads us by peace inside.
The best way to “tune in to His frequency” is by reading and meditating on His Word. The more know His Word, the more you know His voice. It’s like when you constantly tune in to a radio station and learn that DJ’s voice, you’ll recognize that voice when you are in a restaurant or at the mall. It’s the same idea. Tune in to God’s Word, tune in to Him and let Him lead you and guide you into victory all the days of your life!  

Father, thank You for leading me and guiding me in Your truth. I choose to tune in to You, I choose to tune in to Your Word. Help me to hear Your voice so that I can follow Your leading all the days of my life in Jesus’ name. Amen    

Wednesday, 25 June 2014

Bible Based Principles for Christian Dating - Part 4

1. Be careful of legalism and libertinism. Legalists love to make lots of rules in addition to what’s found in Scripture to govern male-female relationships, but they are simply man-made and unnecessary. I know a dating legalist. She is a woman who would date only in groups, and as a result no man ever got to speak with her one-on-one, which explains, in part, why she is still single. I know a man who considers the purpose of every conversation with every Christian woman to be courtship, so that he comes off way too strong way too early and likewise remains single. Libertines love to make themselves the exception to God’s rules that govern male-female relationships, and in so doing act like their own god. Examples of dating libertines include:
  • Those who cross physical boundaries
  • Those who will date anyone who believes in some nebulous “god.”
  • Those who fail to care about finding evidences of spiritual maturity in a potential mate, such as regular church attendance and Bible study participation.
  • And those who have snuggle sleepovers that they swear include no sexual activity but are beyond the scriptural bounds of the Song of Solomon, which repeatedly tells us not to arouse or awaken love until the time of marriage.
2. Marry someone who will be a fit for every season of the life that awaits you together. As I’ve mentioned before, Grace and I met in high school, married in college, and then graduated to start Mars Hill Church together a few years later. She then quit work to stay at home and be a mother to our now five children, and we recently celebrated our sixteenth wedding anniversary and a total of over twenty years together including dating. So far, together we have been through high school, college, ministry, and parenting. One day our five children will be grown, and we will grow old together. Grace does not get to travel with me often, but when she does, we talk frequently about how great our current season of life is but also how fun it will be when the kids are grown and we can travel together for ministry and also enjoy our grand kids. Marriage is about getting old and serving one another in every season of life. So marry someone with every season in mind. Too often, Christians marry only with children in mind and do not consider that one day the kids will be gone, but the couple will be together all the time; as a result, when the kids leave home, crisis hits the marriage because the kids were the glue that held things together. We love our children, but we also love being together and growing old together.

3. Pursue only someone you love. The Bible says that husbands should love their wives and that wives should love their husbands. It is grievous when people marry who are not truly in love or willing to work on safeguarding and growing their love. Proverbs 30:21–23 says that the world cannot hold up under the weight of despair that is wrought by a married woman who is unloved. If a man and woman do not love one another and are not radically devoted to that love lasting a lifetime, then they should not marry.

4. Do not have any sexual contact until marriage. As noted earlier, single Christians are prone to ask where the line is. That question is sinful because it is asking how to get closer to sin rather than closer to Jesus. The Bible says, “Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality.” Paul says elsewhere that a single man should not touch any woman in any sexual way. The issue is not where the line is, but, as Song of Solomon often says, when the time is. That time is the covenant of marriage. Until then, the New Testament repeatedly says to avoid porneia, that junk-drawer term for all kinds of sexual sin. As my friend John Piper often says, by God’s grace and the Spirit’s power, “theology can conquer biology.” A marriage must be built on the worship of God so that spiritual intimacy can enable all other intimacy, such as mental, emotional, physical, and sexual, without shame and without sin.


Tuesday, 17 June 2014

Bible Based Principles for Christian Dating - Part 3

1. Feel free to use technology wisely. While a Christian single should be careful not to troll Web sites and chat rooms where sexual sin is encouraged, there is nothing wrong with using online dating services. In the world of social networking, it is simply a new way for God’s providence to bring people together. Some Christians retain a stigma about compatibility surveys and Internet Christian-dating sites, but they should not. Many singles attend churches where there are few possible spouses, and with the confusion and perversion that persists in the greater culture, they should not feel bad for using technology to find someone who loves Jesus and with whom they are compatible. As a pastor, I could tell you of dozens and dozens of wonderful marriages that began online at a Christian dating Web site.

2. Invest in a romantic relationship only with someone you are entirely attracted to. This means more than the usual goal of finding someone rich and hot; attraction must be to the whole person. Are you sufficiently physically attracted to envision marriage to that person? Are you mentally attracted to him and enjoy talking with and learning from him? Are you spiritually attracted to her and her love for Jesus? Are you financially attracted to him so that you both agree on what lifestyle you will have? Are you “integrity attracted” to her and can see the Holy Spirit at work through her character? Are you “ministry attracted” to him and appreciate how he serves God in his ministry?

3. Only date someone who agrees with you on primary theological issues. It is not enough simply to marry a Christian. For the sake of peace and unity in your home, you need to have the same theological convictions on primary issues. For Grace and me, this means we agree on the Bible as God’s Word and our highest authority; we agree that God is Trinity and that Jesus died as our sinless God in our place for our sins; we agree on a Reformed Protestant view of the gospel. Our agreement extends to gender and family roles, and without this we would have an acrimonious marriage. We both believe that the husband is called to lovingly and sacrificially lead the family, that children are a blessing, that the wife should stay home with the children when they are young, and that solely qualified male elders should govern a church. If we disagreed on these things, even though we are Christians, we would not be able to build a life together. We would disagree on the blueprint and spend our time fighting over which one of us is right. As it is, there is great peace, unity, and cooperation in our home because we agree on primary and secondary theological issues, and as a result we are allies, not enemies.

4. Guard your heart. Getting to know someone takes time. If you give your heart away too quickly, you will find yourself either pushing to make the relationship work or being heartbroken when it falls apart. It is good to want to give your whole heart away. However, you must wait until you are in the covenant of marriage to do so, or you risk lots of heartache and trouble.


Saturday, 14 June 2014

Bible Based Principles for Christian Dating - Part 2

  1. Do not have any romantic relationship with someone who is a non-Christian. The reasons here are almost limitless. Since you cannot marry a non-Christian, getting emotionally involved is pointless and only leads to sin and/or heartache. Since Jesus is at the center of your life, a non-Christian will not even understand who you are. Because you submit to Scripture and unbelievers do not, your relationship with one has no court of arbitration in which to resolve your differences. An unbeliever is not in covenant with Jesus, so he or she has no covenantial framework for any relationship with you. If he or she is not a Christian, you have no means of dealing with sin that will come between the two of you, because you do not both believe in the gospel of Jesus’ death for sin. Indeed, you can have non-romantic evangelistic relationships with non-Christians, but if the parties involved are single, the odds of attraction are high, and it is usually best to introduce the non-Christians to your Christian friends of the opposite gender so that an evangelistic relationship can form.
  2. You should be in a romantic relationship with only one person at a time. Ultimately, the goal of a Christian not called to singleness is not to have a boyfriend or girlfriend but to have a spouse. It is cruel to date multiple people at one time, having them compete for your affections. Furthermore, it is better preparation for adultery than it is for covenant marriage.
  3. He should initiate and she should respond. Because the Bible repeatedly states that the husband is to be the loving and leading head of the family, any romantic relationship should begin with the man taking initiative to kindly and respectfully request an opportunity to get to know the woman better. Too many Christian men are too timid and need to have more courage to risk rejection in their pursuit of a wife. Any woman who is not interested in, say, a group outing or a cup of coffee need simply say no, and the man should respect that answer.
  4. You need to look at who God puts in front of you. Too many singles are looking over people in their church and life who do love God in pursuit of a mythical person, who does not exist. Yet, in God’s providence, good potential spouses are right in front of them. Furthermore, while a woman should not chase a man, she can wisely put herself in front of him. This is precisely what happened in the story of Ruth and Boaz. Although God providentially put Ruth at work gleaning for food in the field of Boaz, Boaz did not consider her a potential wife until Ruth took the counsel of the older woman Naomi and got dressed up and went to the same big party as Boaz, where she did not chase him but did get in his way. The result? One of the greatest love stories in the Bible.


Tuesday, 10 June 2014

Bible Based Principles of Christian Dating - Part 1

  1. Maximize your singleness for God. Accept that you’re in a season of life that affords some freedoms and benefits you will not have if and when you marry. It is a good season to finish your education, increase your theological knowledge, travel to serve in missions, give time to your church, work long hours to establish your career, and pay off any debt you may have accrued. In short, invest your single years in a way that they later pay a great return. Do not waste them.
  2. Do not pursue a serious relationship until you are ready to marry. There are many reasons why people should, for a season, devote their energies to something other than finding a spouse. Getting biblical counseling to overcome a habitual sin such as pornography or substance abuse, maturing as a Christian if they are a new or immature convert, or simply moving out of their parents’ home and taking on adult responsibilities are all good reasons to delay a serious relationship until a better season of life. Basically, until people are mature enough to marry, they should not be in a serious romantic relationship but should use their energies to mature.
  3. Be reasonable. Do not set your expectations too high or too low. If you set your expectations too low, you may marry and be miserable, having made the biggest mistake of your life. If you set your expectations too high, you may never marry, or you may marry the person you think you want but who may not be the one God would consider best for you. I discourage Christian singles from having too long a list of what they are looking for in a spouse. The truth is that most of these lists are simply idolatrous because they are comprised of the seekers’ resume and what they like and do, as if the goal of marriage is to find someone just like them rather than someone different from them so that together they can learn to love and serve one another. Few men are looking for a widowed, broke, and homeless gal from a family noted for incest who is a recent convert with a bitter mother-in-law in tow. But her name is Ruth, and Boaz was blessed to marry her, and through her came Jesus.
  4. Do not be legalistic about dating. There is a difference between a date and dating. A date can be two people spending time together, going out for a meal or coffee after church to get to know one another in a non-sexual manner. Dating as is practiced by non-Christians is not acceptable for Christians. Still, the word dating is not worth quibbling over, as Paul tells us not to quarrel over words. Whether we call it “a date” or something else, time together does not need to be considered a dating relationship. In 1 Timothy 5:1–2, Paul tells Christian single men to treat Christian single women like sisters. Thus, since adult brothers and sisters talk to one another, enjoy one another’s company, and occasionally enjoy a meal together, it is not a sin for two single Christians to enjoy time together, getting to know one another, so that they can see if there is the possibility of a more serious relationship that leads to courtship and marriage.


Thursday, 5 June 2014

Keep The Peace - With a Positive Attitude


“Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense.”
(Proverbs 19:11)
Every day, we have opportunities to get upset, frustrated or offended. Maybe you had plans that didn’t work out, or someone was rude to you at the office. Maybe you were doing something that should have taken one hour and ended up taking three. Life is full of inconveniences. Even though we can’t always control our circumstances, we can control our reaction. They say, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond.”
We should always go out each day with a positive attitude, full of hope and expecting God’s favor. But at the same time, we should recognize that most days are not going to go exactly as we planned. However, we are created to live in peace. Peace is our position of power. If you get stressed because you got off schedule, or upset because your child wouldn’t eat his breakfast, or frustrated because somebody offended you, you are giving away your power. Instead, use good sense! Make the decision to release those offenses and disappointments so you live in peace. Overlook offense, release offense and move forward in the power and victory the Lord has for you! 

Father, today I release every care, concern, offense and disappointment to You. I choose to keep the peace that You have given me knowing that with You, my best days are ahead in Jesus’ name! Amen.  

Friday, 30 May 2014

An Insight Into Christian Dating

You will most likely be aware that in terms of dating, a Christian's view will be totally different to other people's from all around the world. They remain separated from the views which other societies deem as acceptable, such as to date as many people as you choose and then pick out the best to settle down with. What Christian dating really asks of you is to keep reserving all you have for that one person which you must believe God has destined for you to be with.  Therefore decisions involving dating or other certain invitations and other ad-hoc suggestions must not be taken lightly and really ought to be given a lot of thought while all the time also being prayerful.


It will only ever be faith that answers the question "How is it that others seem to find "The Right One" - without even trying?!"  I'm sure this will not have been the first time you've come across this question, but it is one that many still don't understand, including Christians who also have difficulties it.  Christians live their lives by the belief of God having placed a plan into their hearts, and because this plan is in their heart they will also desire it. They also believe that God has a plan for absolutely everyone, but also understand that some Christians will be destined to marry and others to remain single.  The way to be given guidance and an insight into your destiny is through constant prayer. One of the fundamental elements of a Christian dating relationship is for it to be founded upon friendship.

The reason Christians are advised to begin any relationship as friends is to ensure that they will really get to know each other first and for the future, having a good friendship will serve as a great starting block on which to build a deeper more intimate relationship as an exclusive dating couple. Christians are taught that it is advisable only to date a potential suitor from the same faith, however it is quite clear that with every 'single Christian' this does not hold firm. Often it is the case that Christian men and women who are dating those who do not share the same faith, actively encourage and sometimes succeed in bringing Jesus into the life of their partner.  For those of you currently in this situation, it is advisable to also seek helpful advice from a fellow Christian you trust and can talk to, and keep respecting the other person's feelings and well-being. You will find that by praying too, God will smooth out your road of any bumps.

To not participate in sex before marriage is a hard and fast rule in Christian dating. Therefore, most forms of close physical contact are not encouraged before one is married. Dressing appropriately for a date is something to also be considered, your clothing should not reveal amounts of flesh which could trigger off your partner's wild imaginations. Living amongst societies which seems to be so relaxed in their views and attitudes toward sex, it is no wonder that many single and dating Christians face frequent difficulties and struggle to remain within "the rules".  It is not to say that none are ever successful though, as many Christian couples manage to bypass these challenges and when married, will all tell you that the wait is most definitely worth it!

On the Internet today there are a huge number of Christian resources and websites who offer advice and guidance on many various Christian topics. In terms of dating help, fellow Christians also like to meet other singles by means of Christian dating websites, for some it is important to know that the people they will meet on those sites actually share the same love of God. By using a trusted Christian dating website you can feel easier and be happier about the people who make up its members.


Entrusting to God your success of having a loving relationship is something which a lot of people are not open to, and to some people from different parts of the world, Christian dating might seem quite uninviting and interpreted as a long process, but to get a relationship on the right path, it takes patience and prayers! Those Christians who do put their trust in God, will tell you - there is no greater entity in the universe to be writing your love story!

Tuesday, 20 May 2014

Advice on How To Get the Most Success out of Christian Dating

Christians often have a hard time meeting other eligible single Christians because of their limited avenue for dating. The only people that these Christians face are other Christians that are in the same worship service as they are. Even then, eligibility becomes an issue and choices are limited. There are some Christian singles who contemplate in dating people of other denominations but this option is not an exacting solution too. This is the main reason why various Christian groups utilized the Internet in providing the area for making their members meet one another. There are many Christian dating websites that are present today and while most of these websites maintain a good deal of professionalism, it is still best to play safe and heed Christian dating advice.


One very important dating advice for Christian people is to never reveal too much about oneself, especially personal information. As much as possible, it is recommended to stay anonymous until such a time that one is truly comfortable with the person he or she is corresponding with. The harmful consequences of giving out one's personal information is beyond the dating sites control, so it is better to be safe than sorry.  Not succumbing to pressure is another valuable Christian dating advice. An individual should not feel pressured to meet someone personally if he or she is not ready to do so. Other forms of contact may be initiated but the personal meeting should only take place when both parties are comfortable in doing so. Phone calls can be one way to get to know the person better before going out to meet him/her.

As an added dating advice, personal meetings, in the event that it happens, must be agreed to be in a public place. This way both parties are kept safe from possible harm. It is a fact that sometimes people who do online dating are pretentious people and have ulterior motives in joining dating sites. There is also nothing wrong with bringing a friend or family member along and if this is not possible, these people should be provided with all the information related to the meeting such as the place and time. A thing to note when going out for a personal meeting is to have a personal transportation so that in the event that the date goes bad, one can leave the scene immediately.


Christians, like all people, must consider dating to be a fun and safe way of meeting people. But with online dating, one can never be too sure. Harm can be prevented though if the Christian member is wary about the information given to him or her especially those that are inconsistent. Undesirable traits that are observed during the online dating process should also be noted because no matter how irresistible the member is, bad attitude will prove to be a problem. If Christians searching for other single Christians will take note of the Christian dating advice that is given here, dating will not only be fun and entertaining but will also be a very pleasant experience.

Friday, 2 May 2014

Angels Move on Your Behalf

“Praise the LORD, you his angels, you mighty ones who do his bidding, who obey his word.”
(Psalm 103:20, NIV)

Did you know that when you speak words of faith, angels are commissioned to move on your behalf? The Scripture tells us that God gives His angels charge over us. That means, when God hears you declaring His Word, He says to the angels, “Do you hear what My child is saying? They are speaking faith. Angels, I have an assignment for you. Go down there and begin to turn the situation around.” And the angels obey His Word!

If we could pull back the curtain on the unseen spiritual realm, we would see a host of angels and heavenly beings watching over us. That’s why it’s so important to guard what we say because with our words, we either open a door for God and His angels to move on our behalf, or we open a door for the enemy and the forces of darkness.
Make the decision today to only speak words of faith and life over you, your home and your family. Declare God’s Word and His promises and let your words set the angels into motion to help you fulfill the destiny God has planned for you! 

Father, thank You for calling and equipping me. Thank You for giving Your angels charge over me to protect and guide me. I will declare Your Word over my life and choose to honor You in all I do in Jesus’ name. Amen.


Wednesday, 30 April 2014

Christian Dating - Where Do I Find a Christian Partner?

If you're interested in finding a Christian partner, it really isn't that hard to do. You may have thought only of the usual ways you might meet a single partner or soul mate but there may be a few ways you might not have thought of too. Christian dating is easy when you know how.
Assuming that you're regularly going to church and know the single people who belong to your church, they aren't the only fish in the sea.

One of the first things to do is to visit a different church. You may not want to go to a church that meets at the same time that you usually go, so go at a different time. Try evenings and an alternate weekend day for a change. You'll find a wealth of new singles, especially if you attend a church with a larger congregation. Many larger churches have singles groups and you can find out if they do and when they meet and plan a visit.


If you live in a larger city, you're going to find it a lot easier to meet a potential Christian partner. Talk to other Christians who may know of good single Christians they could introduce you to. On the other hand, you could all attend a Christian dinner or meeting together. Be aware of Christian  conferences that you can attend. Your church may have information about conferences, workshops and regional retreats and there may be more that are not mentioned that you could find through other Christian churches. Call around to the larger churches and see if they know of any large gatherings. There will be many single Christians there. Remember these single men and women are also looking for a Christian partner or soul mate.

Of course, there are many paid membership and free Christian dating services on the Internet. They're easy to find and there may be members there that live near you. Try to pick one of the larger Christian dating services because there will be more of a chance that someone will live closer to you. Finding someone locally will make it easier to date and get together. Be careful not to commit a lot of money to your search. Finding a Christian husband shouldn't have to cost much, if anything. Some of the better dating services may have small fees and it may be worth it. Take a free trial to see if it works for you.

There are many places to look for and find a potential Christian partner. If you make it a point to get into new situations as much as possible, you'll find a treasure trove of eligible single Christians.  So look for new situations. Look at Christian conferences, workshops, retreats, meetings and anywhere Christians gather. Try new large churches. Try introductions by Christian friends. Try free  membership trials or free Christian dating services. If you keep looking and making an effort, you will meet someone special and no longer wonder where can I find a Christian partner? You'll
have done it!

Tuesday, 22 April 2014

The Resurrection of Christ Jesus

“For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures.”
(1 Corinthians 15:3–4, NIV)

As we celebrate the resurrection of Christ this Easter season, think about when they crucified Jesus. On that Friday, it was the darkest, most painful, discouraging day of His life. In fact, it was so bad that He sweat drops of blood earlier. It looked as if His enemies had gotten the best of Him. But, God had other plans. They put Him in the grave on Friday, celebrating their victory, but Sunday morning was a different story. The grave could not hold Him. Death couldn’t contain Him! The forces of darkness couldn’t stop Him! On the third day, He came out of the grave and said, “I was dead, but now I am alive forevermore!”
One principle that the resurrection teaches us is that God will always finish what He started. No matter how dark it looks, no matter how long it’s been, no matter how many people are trying to push you down, if you will stay in faith, God will always take you from Friday to Sunday. He will always complete what He started in you!

Father God, thank You for completing what You started in my life. I trust that no matter how dark things may seem, You are my shining light of hope. I thank You for working behind the scenes to carry me through to the place of victory in every area of my life in Jesus’ name! Amen.