Tuesday, 26 March 2019

Common Christian Dating Mistakes - You Can Avoid Them

Here are some common mistakes you may be making when looking for a Christian date.  They are easy to rectify and could make the difference in your success in find the person you want to spend more time with.

1.  A Lack of Effort to meet other Christian Singles
We tend to pray about all the other things in our lives - a new job, success, concern for family and many others.  When praying about meeting somebody new it is important to put in the practical effort as well!  Joining a Dating site or local Christian community social group are examples of what you can do to start the ball rolling.

2.  Try Many of the Common Relationship Avenues that have worked for others
Don't dream up your "love story" before it happens.  Just because you have envisioned meeting somebody at your local church does not mean you should forsake all other avenues of possibility.  Dating sites can offer a broader scope of people to meet that you may not have been open to before.

3.  A point of Decision for the Person you have met
Once you have met the person you are looking for, it is important to get to a point where a decision is made:  do they like you enough to spend more time together?  Ask clear questions if you want a definitive answer.


4.  Don't wait too long to take action on what you want to happen
When the opportunity presents itself - take action.  Don't wait around, that time may pass and when you want to make a decision the person has moved on.  What point are you at in your life?  Ready for Dating?  Ready for a serious relationship?  Just ready for friendship?

5.  Caring too much about what Friends or Family have to say
Be aware that you should make your own decision, and listen to what God has to say for your life.  Others do not know what goes on in your heart.

6.  Not caring enough about what Friends and Family have to say
Be humble enough to listen to the wisdom of Family and friends who are Christians and have your best interests at heart.  Often they see more than you can in a situation as they are not so emotionally close.

7.  Try and have your Life in order before you even attempt to be in a Relationship
Make sure you have yourself sorted out with a job that makes you financially independent.  This will go a long way to boost your self confidence when embarking on a new relationship.  You do NOT want to be a financial burden to somebody new in your life.  It's not necessary to be wealthy, but enough to pay the rent and be self sufficient each month.

8.  Dating the Wrong Person for too long
One of the ways to stop you from Dating the right person is to be involved with the wrong person for too long.  If God is leading you to end a relationship that is not good for you then you need to listen.  There could be somebody He has in mind for you that will depend on timing in your life.

9.  Holding onto the Hope that a certain Relationship will happen
Be careful of becoming attached to somebody in your life - hoping that something will eventually happen.  Life and that person will move on.  Don't get stuck in the past.

10.  Assuming Abstinence is outdated
Don't assume this is outdated because many people you know are having sex before marriage.  This doesn't mean you have to as well.  God's word and promise for you has not changed.  You stand to miss out on the blessings He has for you when you give yourself to your husband/wife for the first time.  Spiritual bonding is an important thing in a marriage.

11.  Don't think somebody will become a Mature Christian spouse if they are not a mature single Christian
Becoming married to somebody does not make you a mature person if you weren't that before.  You suddenly have way more responsibilities.  Don't be mistaken in thinking that if you get married everything will get better.

12.  Making excuses so you can disobey commands in the Bible
There are so many countless pitfalls and mistakes we can make in Christian Dating - not studying the Word of God and being disciplined in our daily walk will only make things very complicated and worse for ourselves.  There will always be challenges and if we don't keep Him first in our lives we will not succeed in Christian Dating.  Keep focused on God.


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